Let us Love Ourselves

Being a big overthinker my whole life, I always thought my life was hard. Though I faced several circumstances that made my life difficult, I am now realising that sometimes it was also my overthinking mind that made a problem much bigger than it actually was.  Now that I am married, I am beginning to realise just how much I overthink. Suppose there are six members in our home, and my brain has the habit of wondering, Why is this person not talking to me? Why did that person ignore me? Did I say something wrong? Is someone upset with me? And the questions never seem to end. The more I tell myself that I never want to be a people-pleaser, the more I realise that I am indirectly becoming one. I find myself paying attention to people's moods, their reactions, their words, and sometimes even their silence. Sometimes, my brain thinks so much that my head starts hurting. 😞 And the worst part? Most of the time, I don't even know whether the things I am worrying about are actually tru...

We've all been there. Someone asks you for a favor, an extra task, or a commitment you simply don't have the bandwidth, time, or energy to fulfill. You politely say "No." Almost immediately, a wave of discomfort hits you. You see or feel their disappointment, and an uncomfortable thought creeps in: Did I do something wrong? Did I cause this? In the journey of self-love and personal boundaries, learning to handle this exact moment is a game-changer. Understanding Where Disappointment Really Comes From Disappointment is rarely caused by the word "no" itself. Instead, disappointment comes from unmet, unfounded, or unrealistic expectations. To understand this, consider how disappointment works in everyday life: The Restaurant Example: Imagine reading great reviews about a restaurant, but when you go, the food and atmosphere don't live up to your expectations. You feel disappointed—not because the restaurant intentionally set out to hurt you, but because your...

If someone had told me a year ago that I'd be packing gift hampers from my own home, I probably would've laughed. For the longest time, my identity revolved around YouTube. Creating videos. Editing until midnight. Refreshing analytics. Dreaming of the day my channel would finally take off. But somewhere along the way, I realized something. Dreams are beautiful, but they don't pay bills overnight. As much as I love creating content, I also wanted to build something with my own hands. Something tangible. Something that could make someone smile the moment they opened a box. That's how Wrapped in Luv by Saniya was born. It isn't just another gifting hamper business. It's my little corner of the internet where every hamper is packed with intention. I wanted to create gifts that feel feminine, soft, elegant, and deeply personal. The kind of gifts that make someone pause for a second and think, "Wow... someone really thought about me." Whether it's a sel...

Ever since I got married, I have been living in two worlds. One world is my present reality, where I live in a home with six people and a dog. The other is my maternal home, where there were only three of us—my mother, my brother, and me. We have witnessed the darkest of times together, yet we never left each other's side. Even when my brother had to move to another city for two years, my mother and I held each other's hands and got through everything together. Now that I am married, I don't find either of them around me the way I used to. It has been a little over seven months since my marriage. I have the best husband I could have ever dreamed of, and I am deeply grateful for him. Yet, I still feel homesick. It isn't that I face any abuse from my in-laws. Nor do they make me feel like an outsider. They have always treated me with kindness. But even then, I can't fully accept my new reality. Every night before going to sleep, I find myself imagining a different lif...

Have you ever felt tired even after getting enough sleep? Not physically tired. Emotionally tired. You wake up in the morning, but your mind already feels exhausted. Small things irritate you. Conversations feel heavy. You don't feel like talking to anyone. Even replying to messages feels like work. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Many women today are walking around emotionally drained without even realizing it. What Does "Emotionally Drained" Actually Mean? Being emotionally drained doesn't always mean you're sad or depressed. Sometimes it looks like this: Constant mental exhaustion Feeling overwhelmed by small tasks Losing interest in things you once enjoyed Wanting to be alone all the time Overthinking every conversation Feeling tired even after resting The strange part is that many women continue functioning normally while feeling this way. They go to work. They take care of their families. They smile. But internally, they're running on empt...

  Welcome back to Only Self Love . If you’re reading this, I want you to take a second. Stop scrolling. Just inhale... and exhale. Today I want to talk about something so simple, yet impossibly difficult: the physical act of holding ourselves together. The image I shared above—that soft, quiet moment by the window—isn’t a pose. It’s a snapshot of a practice that saved me during one of my hardest seasons. It’s the art of the self-hug. We are so quick to offer a comforting touch to others. If a friend cries, your arm goes around their shoulder. If a partner is stressed, you rub their back. We know, instinctively, that human touch heals. It lowers cortisol; it signals safety. But when we are the ones falling apart, what do we do? Often, we tighten up. We clench our jaws. We isolate. We retreat into the cold fortress of our own anxiety. We deny ourselves the very comfort we generously give to everyone else. A few years ago, I was completely overwhelmed. My anxiety was a physical weigh...